Jesus kindly responded, “I know you are
worried about doing a good job. But there is only one thing most important.
Mary chose correctly. I won’t correct her.” (Matthew 10:41-42)
When you must correct one of your people, do
you do it kindly? Do you talk about issues instead of blame? Do you protect the
vital relationships of your group community and avoid needlessly humiliating
people? Do you address conflict and its resolution transparently, being sure
all parties are included?
Jesus spoke to Martha in a way that
corrected her misunderstanding, “You have misunderstood what is most important.”
He noticed that she was a person who wanted to do well. He acknowledged she had
good motives. But, He identified the error. Jesus addressed the issue in the
presence of everyone who had heard the charge. He answered her directly,
explained why, and so settled the issue. He never chose Mary over Martha. He
calmed the situation. You would expect that Martha, given this kind
explanation, my simply have dropped her dish towel and joined the others, now
united in purpose.
When you have conflict in your group, lead
like Jesus. Be direct. Be truthful. Be transparent and inclusive. But, be kind,
show grace and love, and so build community.
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